Think Through Trade-OffsThe important thing is for you to get clear on what you are willing to trade off…what you want to fight for...and the things that do not...
Pictures of the Ex-HusbandAfter the divorce, it can be hard to decide what to do with pictures. Give this some thought, as displaying pictures of the ex can...
Creating Two HomesWherever your children are staying should feel like their home. If there is way to have familiar family mementos at both homes (e.g....
Build Your Support NetworkIdentify friends and family who can help you along the way. They will be a helpful sounding board as you think about the details...
Quality Time With Your ChildrenThis can be a challenge, given the long list of things you are most likely juggling at this stage, but it is important to put away your...
Entering Each Other's HomesIt is helpful to define how you want to handle entering each other’s homes…such as when your children need something from the home. If...
Stop... Collect Yourself... Be SmartThere are many reasons that trigger a divorce and the reasons are often emotionally driven. So, you need to do all you can...
Understand That Everyone Takes a Side...Even if You Don’t Ask Them To... It is important to remember that you cannot control how other people will react in these situations. ...
Messages Between ParentsIt can be helpful to figure out with your ex-husband how you want to handle going through the laundry list of points that you may need to...
Riding the Emotional RollercoasterAt times, you will need to put aside your emotions until you have worked through the details…or there may be times when you need to put...
Recover From Divorce HangoverEveryone’s divorce hangover is different…some take longer than others to recover…and there is an emotional headache that you need to...
Parenting ApproachThere are a wide range of points to think through relating to your parenting approach. If you can define and align these points up...
Understand Your FinancesTry to understand your current financial picture well in advance of triggering the process. The financial game changes once you and your...
Prepare For a Year of FirstsThe good news is that the “Year of Firsts” is only one year, but it is a year you should learn from...as it will help you define how you...
Outline Parenting Plan TogetherThis outlines how you will jointly manage your children’s lives...which is helpful because it becomes the point of reference if there is...
Mindset Is Essential“Calm is your friend” when going through a divorce. The calmer (and more level headed) you can be when navigating the process, the...