Actually I do not recommend decluttering if you still are feeling emotional about the change you have gone through. The decision of what to give away (or throw away) and what to keep is definitely impacted by your emotional state. If you think you may regret the decisions you will make when you declutter your home then I recommend waiting until you feel that you are in a good place and can objectively make decisions about how you want to clean out your closets, drawers, basement, or garage.
When trying to manage your children’s lives across two households it is helpful to keep one family calendar that both parents (and nanny if one is involved in your children’s lives) can view and manage as needed. With a online shared calendar, this way each parent can work off the same understanding of where the children are each day as well as keeping everything straight in terms of school and extracurricular activities.
One of the first major decisions is where to live after the divorce. The challenge with this point is there are a lot of variables in terms of the details of this decision, for example, you will need to decide who gets the house in a divorce. If you have the option of staying in the family house where you have been raising your children…based on what I have observed, this is the best option at least for the first year (or two) after a divorce is final. However, keeping the family home that you have been living in may not be an option. If your home is connected to bad memories or traumatic situations, a fresh start may be best for you and your children. If this is the case, then finding a place that you can create as your new home is a key point to think through.